And now the rest of the story…No longer living from the outside in.

Growing up I always lived from the outside in. We are constantly taught to go by what we see, hear, smell, taste, or touch. Quite honestly, I completely lived that way. As I was becoming a teenager I had noticed I was becoming an angry individual. In fact, I once had a neighbor lady that told me as a teenager I had a chip on my shoulder, I angrily told her if a had a chip on my shoulder why don’t you try to knock it off. I now understand what she meant and was only trying to enlighten me at the time. But I became angry at life. Growing up in my neighborhood I was not always the smallest but I was the one everyone picked on. Another time with my mother’s mental illness she left me while we were traveling back home from New Jersey. I could go on and on but fast forward to graduating from high school. I had a goal to become a union carpenter and spent years from 13 to 18 getting experience. But to be accepted into the union at that time you had to take and pass a test, which I took and waited enthusiastically for the results. I will never forget receiving the letter in late June of 1982, after graduating in early June. Very hopeful I opened the letter and started to read…Congratulations on passing the test, however, due to the poor economy and too many applicants we can’t accept you into the union at this time. Yes, I was crushed, no more goals for me, they produce heartache.

I finally decided to change career paths after having little work and layoffs. That is when I settled for retail management. I took a position at a local store and worked my way up to a store manager and then the vicious cycle came back into my life. I had worked my way up to bigger stores with more responsibility. And the company asked me to transfer to a store 50 miles away so I did. However, it was in an area with high theft. I once caught a shoplifter and was detaining him until the police got there. This guy began arguing with me that he was not staying and kept getting in my face and I thought he going to take a crack at me and he did. He struck me in the glasses and they flew off my face hit the floor and broke, I went berserk and was beating on him and bouncing him off the floor, I was in a rage and didn’t even realize what I was doing. I truly believe I would have killed or severely injured him if the police would not have shown up. Then months later, I had an employee steal was a large sum of money. My company came to me and said since she did not pay the money back I had to. So they began the process of keeping all of my bonuses. At that point in my life, I had just gotten married a year before and my wife was pregnant with our son. I was becoming such an angry person, I didn’t even like myself, I told God that I no longer wanted anything to do with Him. That I could not believe that He saved me, to bring me to this? I couldn’t escape these cycles of terrible things that I never wanted. They kept popping up in life. Being very bitter I quit my job and moved my wife and son back to our hometown.

As a new husband and now father living in our hometown, I accepted another position in retail management with another company. I worked in the day time and my wife worked in the evening so we did not have the expense of child care. It was during one of those evenings when my son (now 33) was at the “terrible two” age that he was taking his little fingers and prying out the buttons on our kitchen chairs that I yelled at him to stop and he did for a moment. Then I had gotten a hammer and was hammering the buttons back in when I looked and there he was doing the same thing to the very next chair. In that moment rage quickly rose up within me and I drew back the hammer to strike him and thankfully had a moment and I caught myself. It really scared me that I could have hurt my very own son in my rage. This was the first time a realized I had a problem with anger. However, change was on its way.

Shortly after that experience, my son was watching “Mr Roger’s Neighborhood”. Mr. Fred Rogers came on this particular show singing this stupid little song:

What do you do with the mad that you feel
When you feel so mad you could bite?
When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong…
And nothing you do seems very right?

What do you do? Do you punch a bag?
Do you pound some clay or some dough?
Do you round up friends for a game of tag?
Or see how fast you go?

It’s great to be able to stop
When you’ve planned a thing that’s wrong,
And be able to do something else instead
And think this song:

I can stop when I want to
Can stop when I wish
I can stop, stop, stop any time.
And what a good feeling to feel like this
And know that the feeling is really mine.
Know that there’s something deep inside
That helps us become what we can.
For a girl can be someday a woman
And a boy can be someday a man.

When He got to the part, I can stop when I want to. It was though a light went off in my head and I learned for the first time that I could stop being angry when I wanted to, and I wanted to. It didn’t happen overnight but eventually, I finally stopped. So I learned that I could choose not to be angry anymore. That was a new concept to my reacting way of living. I got so good at that, I began to question, it this worked for anger, can it work with other emotions as well? That thought process led to, do you think you can choose how you want to feel? I found myself going around asking people that question. I remember on one occasion, I asked a bank teller and remember she had that deer in the headlights look which quickly turned to this man is from mars look. But I will forever be grateful to Mr. Fred Rogers and his stupid little song. It taught me a great lesson, that one can choose how they want to feel and to respond to life, instead of reacting to life. A switch from living from the outside in, to living from the inside out.

And now the rest of the story…I now know I am God’s highest form of creation. I am an eternal spirit, who had always been. My spiritual DNA is perfect and needs no modification or adjustment. It is perfect. My true nature is: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. I am those very things, so when I find I am not displaying that fruit, I know I am out of balance with my true nature. Speaking of true nature the core law of my being is growth. So in times when I find myself settling, or thinking I like my life as it is or not having any desire to expand. I now know I am out of touch with the law of my very being which is growth and expansion. Spirit always looks for ways to further express itself. Spirit also always works from the high to lowest side, from the spiritual to the physical or from the unseen to the seen. I can choose. So I choose the be the best version of me I can be.

So if, you are stuck repeating the same life, year after year. There is great hope for you because if I, as ignorant as I was can change. Anybody can change. But here is the real dilemma, everyone knows how to do better in life. They just don’t know why they are not doing it. I now know why. It is your paradigm or the multitude of subconscious habits that you have that are controlling your actions. Which your actions are producing your results. Learn not to master disappointments or your comfort zone. Learn to master change. Choose to focus on what you can control and give the rest to God and let it go.

Here are four things that hold you back from the life of your dreams or desires. Number one: your life vision or goal is bigger than your self-image. Number two: you have limiting beliefs and lack mindedness. Number three: fear, fear of failure, fear of defeat, fear of success or any other fear. Number four: lack of knowledge or skill.

To truly live from the inside out requires you to have a clear vision, a goal that you are moving towards, and beliefs mixed with supporting emotions. Now to have your vision, goal and beliefs aligned is called brain coherence. That is true success. Now I can honestly say you can’t do that successfully and easily on your own. It does require someone who has done it to guide you to that place within yourself that you can’t get to by yourself. And that is where I come in. Yes if you ask, I will help you. I truly belief in this law. You have not because you ask not.

Blessing to all of you, you are one with Him!

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Forgiveness…It does a body good!

Spend enough time studying personal growth and you’ll inevitably hear about the virtues of forgiveness.
Sure, it sounds good in theory. But let’s face it… Forgiveness is hard. Especially when it comes to forgiving that one who has deeply wronged you. The ex-colleague who stabbed you in the back. The
Ex-partner who lied to you. Or even our parents who never showed you the appreciation, recognition or love you craved as a kid. We sometimes think that they simply do NOT deserve our empathy.

Here’s the thing…Maybe. They. Don’t. But what most people don’t realize is that forgiveness is not about the person who wronged or hurt you. It’s about YOU. You don’t need to forgive them for their sake. You need to do it for your own sake.
Because what people don’t always realize is that the path to radical success in life – to outrageous personal accomplishment and joy – isn’t necessarily a drive, hard work, money or even a streak of good luck. It’s forgiveness. When you spend enough time spent fuming internally, the pain you felt in the past invites itself into the present. You’re refreshing your pain every time you think about that situation where you got screwed over. Every time you interact with someone who reminds you of the person who betrayed you. Every time you look in the mirror and remember that you bit that line, you fell for that trick, you signed onto that deal that you shouldn’t have.

Your mind internalizes that feeling. And it integrates it into the way it thinks about the future. Your mind goes, “Okay – person A hurt me in the past, which means I definitely shouldn’t trust person B.”
“My first business ended up failing, so my next one will be a disaster too.”
“I let myself down by having faith in the wrong thing in the past, so I can’t trust my judgment going forward.”

The pain you carry forward becomes a self-defeating pattern. THAT’S why you HAVE to forgive.
Forgiveness isn’t about letting your enemies walk free and absolving them of their wrongdoings.
It’s about finally letting yourself walk free. Into the better future that is waiting for you. Into the bigger person, you are capable of becoming. Into the next phase of your life, where the deadweight of your past has been dropped.
Into the incredible life that you deserve.

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Does your childhood shape your success?

It’s a strange thing to think about, I know.

But modern mind science is proving with ever-increasing certainty –

That more than anything else, it’s your childhood that 
shapes your [career and financial success] in adulthood.

The question is:

At this moment, is your childhood helping or sabotaging your success?

This 30-second quiz reveals the surprising answer 
(I hope you’re sitting down)

P.S. Pay extra close attention to the short personalized results video right
after you take the [30-second quiz.]

It’ll show you how to rewire your brain for success and abundance on autopilot. No matter what your past looks like.
Begin the 30-second quiz.

[30-second  quiz: discover how your childhood is 
influencing your career and  finances.]
To find out take the quiz!
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Decision making solves problems.

Yes, making a committed decision can solve all of your problems big and small.
There’s a mental move you can make which, in a millisecond, has the potential
to improve almost any personal or business situation you will ever encounter. It could literally propel you down the path to incredible success. The name for
this magic mental activity is DECISION. Decisions, or the lack of them, are
responsible for the breaking or making of many a career. Individuals who have
become very proficient at making decisions, without being influenced by the
opinions of others, are the same people whose annual incomes fall into the
six- and seven-figure category. Unfortunately, we’re not taught how to make
decisions in school or, for the most part, at work. So, you must develop this
mental ability on your own. The good news, armed with the proper information (there’s an entire chapter on Decision in Think & Grow Rich by Napolean Hill) and by subjecting yourself to certain disciplines, you can become a very effective decision maker. By becoming proficient at decision making, you can virtually
eliminate conflict and confusion in your life. It brings order to your mind and, of course, this order is then reflected in your results.

Here is something worth thinking about. Napolean Hill states that successful
people make decisions quickly and rarely change their mind if ever and
unsuccessful people make decisions slowly and change their mind often. Become
a quick decision maker and stick to your decisions.

To your success!

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Free Training…

Are you ready to break your financial glass ceiling once and for all? In this video, my good friend and brain expert, John Assaraf is going to show you that even
with all the skills and the right knowledge, your “Inner Game” is the one thing
that brings it all together. He is going to share some of the latest most cutting-
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Let your light shine!

You are a light in this world. Let it shine.

Life is…what shall I say? Amazing. This early morning I was looking out the window and the sun was rising. It must have just been at the correct angle to illuminate everything that is usually not visible. Have you ever experienced the sun coming in your window at the right angle that it illuminates all the dust particles that are always there but usually you don’t see them? Well, I experienced this in the outdoors this morning. I could not believe my eyes. I was seeing all sorts of flying things. Tiny as they were, I am sure you usually don’t see them. Yes, they were bugs, but in an abundance such as I have not seen. What do I make of all this? My ah-ha moment. 1. Light illuminates stuff you don’t want to see. 2. There is an abundance of everything all around you. 3. You don’t always see that abundance. 4. Stuff you want to see is in abundance with stuff you don’t want to see. Actually, side by side. 5. Our conditioning (represented by the angle of the sun this morning) only allows us to see certain things. 6. Every now and then you have a moment when everything is exposed. Those moments are actually liberating. 7. Your perception (represented by the sunlight) influences what you see. Most of the time you only see what your perception allows you to see. The other stuff (represented by the tiny flying things) is there in abundance but you don’t see them. 8. You can’t even deal with the other stuff until you see it. Until you recognize it. There may be some unconscious things in your life that are not serving you but and not until you recognize them, can you begin to change them. 9. One may say… Out of sight, out of mind. Who cares about the small stuff anyway? 10. It is how you respond, not react to the small stuff that determines the results you are looking for. 11. You are a masterpiece because you are a piece of the master. 12. You are the light of the world! What are you illuminating? Wake up to who you are!

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Why do we call Good Friday good?

When A Very Pure And Innocent Man Died?

On this Good Friday I woke up with this question coming from within me. Why do we call “Good Friday” Good?   Any normal thinking human being would be outraged at a completely innocent man being put to death but not only death but through this gruesome torture called crucifixion.  A brief study in crucifixion will enlighten one to the agony one would experience by hand of the Romans and their ability to inflict the greatest amount of pain with a very slow death.  It is a well known fact that depending on the stamina of an individual one could literally survive days through this torturous experience. Every element about this type of death was to inflict excruciating pain to the individual. The placement of the nails on nerves that would radiate pain and located at joints that would enable the process by supporting one’s weight without falling off the cross. It was a common practice to have the knees bent in order that one could push up from the nail in the feet in order to breathe. Simply what happens is one begins to suffocate when they can no longer push up to breathe through the extreme cramping and spasms of the muscles of the body with the outstretched arms. All this is a constant repeating cycle of our inherent drive to stay alive. With one’s bent knees one can push up to breathe but by doing so, they are forcing more weight onto the nerve endings that stream pain to the individual until through the pain and the extreme cramping of all the muscles through the torso they can no longer push up to breathe. They begin to sag and the lungs can no longer begin to take in air to breathe.  This begins a cycle of one pushing up to breathe and then sagging and then pushing up to breathe and sagging. I suppose by now you can imagine the process. Due to some of  the Jewish customs and laws, a common practice to quicken death was to break the legs of the individual in order to disable the person the ability to push up to breathe and therefore suffocate.   

In regards to our remembrance of Good Friday we are referring to the case of Jesus of Nazareth. With evening coming and the Jewish customs the Roman executioner came to Jesus to break his legs but found him already dead and to ensure this fact he thrust his sword into his side piercing his pericardial sack and out flowed blood and then water confirming death. Does this mean that Jesus was weak? Certainly not, but confirmed Jesus’ words that no man takes his life but he laid it down. His death was but a choice He had made to fulfill all things concerning himself. Jesus did die while on the cross but not because of it, he died with a pierced and busted heart but not because of it. He died because He chose to die and lay his life down for the sheep or better yet us. A very selfless sacrifice.

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In light of this event, why do we call Good Friday good? An innocent man died and we should call that good? To understand “good” I went back to the beginning and read about what God had created and every time He created something, God said it was good.  The sky, earth, water, night, day, vegetation, fish, birds, animals all these things God saw them and said it was good. But when I came to man, made in God’s image and likeness, I noticed he changed His phrase from good to very good. So man in God’s eyes is very good. This to me speaks of how God feels about himself, since man was but a reflection of Himself. In scripture God reveals Himself to be “good” , to be “love” to have no beginning or end, to know all things, to be equally present at all places at the same time, regardless of space and time, to be all powerful, to be One and only God. The great “I AM” and that He is Father. Therefore since He is Father, He must have children. So Adam and Eve were son and daughter of God. However, as it is recorded man and woman made a mistake and disobeyed God in the garden. Man once being a son and friend of God, now perceived that he was separated, independent of, and no longer a friend/son of God but now an enemy. Now the account of man was blemished, tarnished, and out of balance, in effect lifeless, apart from God. Man now owed a debt he could not pay. God knowing all this in advance chose to set in place a plan that would reconcile man’s record. So through years of revealing this plan to His people, through leaders and prophets time came to a fullness and God had another Son, this Jesus of Nazareth. He spoke of Jesus as His beloved son in whom He was well pleased or in other words a “Very good Son” one who knew no sin.  Now man had developed and grew into a religious system of sacrifices for their sin but this system was only a covering over and had to be repeated every year. A system that oppressed the people of God. Therefore God chose to do something once for all to totally and completely restore and reconcile man to Himself by making a new agreement or covenant that God would keep, this time it would be permanent and once for all time. God had used the Jewish religious leaders, Pontius Pilate, and the Roman government to execute His Beloved Son to satisfy the debt of the old agreement or covenant and therefore initiate this new covenant. This pleased the Father or was “good” to Him, in that He was in Christ reconciling the world back to Himself. He who knew no sin (Jesus) became sin for us that we now God’s children would have a right standing with Him. We in Christ become God’s sons and daughters forever without end and in Him (Jesus) we are made new beings. This is all done for us and therefore we decree Good Friday as GOOD because it was good to God the Father.

How do I know it was good to God the Father? The answer as well as all truth is simple. The sacrifice was accepted. How do I know that? Jesus the Christ, our Savior though He did completely die in our place did not remain dead but was raised on the third day after His death. Therefore the GOOD NEWS is this: Be reconciled to God because He does not count your sins against you, your debt has been already paid in full and the VERY GOOD NEWS is in Christ Jesus you are now and forever Sons and Daughters of the Most High God. You are His friend and no longer separated from HIM! Be reconciled because you are. Today is the day of salvation. Jesus said that He came that we would have life and life abundantly!

Joe Helms

Copyright 2013

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The Unlimited Power of Your Mind!

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Brain Awareness Week

The best way to master your brain, to keep it healthy, and to unlock powers you never even knew you had… is by learning exactly how to use your brain to its fullest potential.

And you can learn how to do exactly that at NeuroGym’s Brain Awareness Week.

John Assaraf (Founder of NeuroGym) brought together five top brain science and success experts to give a week’s worth of awesome masterclass trainings.

It’s free to register.

And when you do, you’ll get access to all five classes.

But you have to hurry – this event starts on Monday. If you want access to all five classes, you must register today.

Register for Brain Awareness Week

John is putting on this awesome training event to help spread the message of Brain Awareness Week.

Brain Awareness Week is a campaign dedicated to spreading the research and findings of the field of neuroscience… and helping people apply these findings to improve their lives.

So if you want to participate and get access to some amazing free training that is only going to be available next week… then make sure you register right now.

Here’s what you’re going to learn in each masterclass:

Monday: Dr. Srini Pillay – Unleash the Genius Parts of Your Brain for the Smartest Path to Financial Success

Tuesday: Dr. Sarah McKay, PhD – Refire to Rewire: The New Science of Peak Performance

Wednesday: David Bach – How to Become an Automatic Millionaire

Thursday: Sharon Pearson – How To Overcome Your Inner Critic – Break Free from Past Failures, Challenges, Stories, Circumstances or Excuses

Friday: Mary Morrissey – Bridging the Gap Between Where You are & The Life You Want to Live

Five amazing masterclasses.

Five world- class brain science and success experts.

Five amazing ways to strengthen your mental and emotional

fitness… so you can finally optimize your brain and achieve your life’s greatest goals and dreams.

This awesome week of training starts on Monday, March 11th.

Claim your spot now before this powerful week of life-changing training begins.

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This mind-blowing series is going to change your brain forever…

Celebrate Brain Awareness Week with NeuroGym’s Incredible Free Brain Training Series!  
When: March 11.15, 2019
Time: Starts at 10:00 a.m.
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Over 100,000 expected to attend!   Have you Registered yet?
If not click here to register, get details, and claim your free gift. Hello All,   We now know that there are neurological “keys” that exist that can help
you unlock your brain’s full potential.   And when you discover these
components, you’re able to change your brain so you can accomplish anything
you want in life.   We know this is true, thanks to the amazing advances in the
field of neuroscience over the past few years.   The reason I’m telling you this is because next week, there’s a very important worldwide celebration happening.   You see, next week is worldwide Brain Awareness Week.   And as a way to
celebrate, John Assaraf (New York Times Best Selling Author and Founder of
NeuroGym) is hosting a life-changing training series called…  
NeuroGym’s Brain Awareness Week Masterclass Series   As soon as I heard about this awesome event happening next week, I had to tell you about it…   It’s a series of transformative training
that helps you discover the neurological “keys” to unlocking your full potential and understanding your brain better… so you can upgrade your mental and
emotional skills, transform your life, and achieve your biggest goals faster and
easier than ever before. Brain Awareness Week is a global campaign dedicated to spreading advances in the field of neuroscience.   There have been a lot of these advances – many which can affect your life and performance on a day-to-day
basis. These advances can affect how much money you earn. They can affect
your self-image and self -confidence.   And they can even affect the fear and
motivation circuits in your brain. (That’s why it’s easy to get excited when you
set a goal, but you instantly get scared and overwhelmed when you try to achieve it.)   As a way to celebrate Brain Awareness Week and spread the message of
this amazing movement, John Assaraf and his team at NeuroGym decided to
host a series of masterclass trainings for the entire week of  March 11.15th.  
Register for NeuroGym’s Brain Awareness Week Masterclass Series   Five days. Five world-class experts. Five masterclasses that will transform the way you think, feel and perform.   The best part is it’s free to attend.   There’s one thing you should know, though.   This is a one-time only event.   The only time you can get free access to these masterclass trainings is by saving your spot right now.   John Assaraf has gone to great lengths to bring in five of the
world’s greatest experts and authorities in the field of brain research and
neuroscience for this event.  
(Check out the amazing lineup of speakers here).   These are people who understand the psychological, biological and neuroscientific reasons WHY
people fail to reach success. And they have uncovered a ton of
valuable, evidence-based strategies that can help anyone turn their life around,
train their brain, and automatically start developing the right thoughts, beliefs,
and habits required to achieve success in life.   If you want access to this
awesome free training series, make sure you register right now.   Here’s where
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